Change the Energy in the Room

There are people who can read the tone, people who can set the tone, and then there are people who are tone-deaf.

The people who set the tone in the relational environments they step into know how to change the energy in the room.

They are what I call Energy Carriers.

If you want to be a force of influence who affects the “outer energy” of the room, the kind that exists in our relational contexts (i.e. the vibe or spirit of any given setting), it begins with how you manage the energy of your internal world (i.e. learning to be fully present, living in the now moments of your life, and knowing how to harness what’s on the inside to change what happens on the outside).

Energy Carriers know this: if they want to be a force in their outer world of relationships, they must learn to be more fully present. They must resist and overcome the temptation we all face of distraction. I once heard it said, "Distraction is the greatest spiritual enemy of our time." I'm convinced of this truth.

From that present, centered place, we can embody what it means to be an energy carrier who learns how to navigate through the tone, vibe, and/or emotion of the environments around us. We can shape and form the relational ethos of the lives of others around us in a positive way, meaningful, and intentional way.

Read more in my book, Relational Intelligence.